088 – Do We Have to Forgive?

 

This week, we are tackling one of the most personal topics out there: forgiveness.

For some, there is a massive cyclone of guilt and shame when it comes to forgiveness. From all directions, we receive messages of how we should be handling our emotions, which ultimately means many of us feel like failures.

The truth is, everyone comes to forgiveness (or not) in their own time, on their own terms. There is no one way to be and there certainly is no one way to feel. Most people mean well with their advice to forgive, but the pressure to make others feel better can be overwhelming if we haven’t yet accepted that the rollercoaster of emotions sometimes lasts 60 seconds and sometimes 30 years.

The one piece of advice that we firmly stand behind is this: forgive yourself. Make right things where you can and fire the judge. Be gentle with yourself. It isn’t easy. But if you can start there, you are on your way to freedom.

Please enjoy this conversation about our feelings on forgiveness.

 

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087 – What Our Mothers Didn’t Teach Us About Sex: An Interview with Shasta Townsend

Shasta Townsend

Shasta Townsend

This week, we’re talking about the birds and the bees with storyteller, lover of life, and best-selling author Shasta Townsend. Shasta is the author of Happy, Sexy, Shameless: What Our Mothers Didn’t Know About the Birds and the Bees and the creator of Balanced Life Yoga.

There is a ton of misleading information out there about sex, sexuality, and intimacy. So, how are we supposed to figure out how to navigate through the b.s. and find the truth about what a happy, sexy, shameless life looks like? It would’ve been nice to hear, at a young age (before puberty punched us all in our guts), but the truth is that many mothers had the same misinformation and shame that many of us felt/feel around sex.

Shasta walks us through how we can change the stories of who we think we are and what we believe that we deserve so that we can all step into a truly intimate, fulfilling sex life. With intention, we can heal the wounds on our sexuality and learn to release the shame that secrecy fuels.

We hope you enjoy this wonderful conversation.

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086 – Overcoming the “Nice Girl” Complex

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Photo by Andrea Rose

This week on Vagina Chronicles Podcast, we’re talking about raising girls to be “nice.” What does that really mean? And how does that impact us as we become women?

Around the world, the roles of women are changing… more rapidly in some places over others but, still, changing! And with these changes come more choice and opportunity for girls and women. Awesome.

But we need to make sure we are enforcing, and sometimes heralding, those changes in our ways of being. Our ways of interacting. Our ways of raising girls. So that they know they are just as worthy and deserving of being who they are as their male counterparts are being raised to believe.

Being raised to be a “good girl” or a “nice girl” can create issues for women if it leads them to believe that their opinions matter less or that they should defer to everyone else around them in order to be perceived as “nice.”

In this episode, we discuss how kindness and decency are just facets of women (and men…humans, really) and how we should encourage interity and powerful choice in our daughters. And in ourselves, if we need to release “nice girl” programming that is holding us back.

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085 – Creative Ways to Give Thanks

 

Once a year, at least in the U.S., we are reminded to gather with those we love and give thanks. We make big dinners, stuff our bellies to full, and laze about in tryptophan semi-comas, surrounded by friends and family.

The tradition is great, comforting even. But have you ever wanted to do more to express the unique love and gratitude you have for each person? Well, we can help!

In this episode, we are sharing a few creative ways that you can use to say “Thanks!” You can share your talents or time to make someone else feel loved and appreciated…and it just doesn’t get any better than that.

So, please enjoy this holiday-inspired episode and know that we love and appreciate all of you! Thank you for joining us every week and helping us to grow our message of love!

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084 – What Are You Really Craving? An Interview with Alex Jamieson

The fabulous Alex Jamieson

The fabulous Alex Jamieson

On today’s episode of Vagina Chronicles Podcast, we are excited to welcome best-selling author, functional nutrition and life coach, chef, host of The Crave Cast podcast, and “cravings whisperer,” Alexandra Jamieson, CHHC, CAPP.

Alex shares the four root causes of cravings and the importance of honoring those cravings as communication from our bodies, rather than labeling them as “good” or “bad” as many of us often do.

She also talks about how gently and lovingly detoxing from the Toxic 6 (gluten, corn, soy, dairy, sugar, and caffeine) can free us from the haze and mind-numbing stupor that eating too many foods that don’t support health can cause, so that we can really begin to hear those messages our body is sending us.

Please join us today as we discuss the right for all women to have delicious, fulfilling, playful, and sexual lives on our own terms.

We encourage all of you to purchase, or check out from the library, Alex’s book, Women, Food, and Desire. It is, in our opinion, one of the most insightful depictions of women’s relationships with food, body, and passion.

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083 – Effective Communication: How Tuning In With Love Can Change Your Relationships

Miscommunication is one of the most frustrating feelings one can experience with another human being; we want so badly to express ourselves and be heard that the alternative can be excruciating! Too often, we blame others for this lack of connection.

But what if we could adjust our communication skills by tweaking just one element? Not saying it’s easy, by any means, but, as in many situations, love is the answer. Now, we’re not talking rainbows and butterflies, we’re talking about conscious, pointed, intentional love. Speak with it. Hear with it.

By incorporating that one element into all our interactions with others, we can begin to transform how we enter, and leave, conversations. All of us want to be heard (it’s a basic human need), but so often we feel we are not.

Please enjoy this episode as we share our experiences with miscommunication and tips on how to enrich each relationship with the gift of love and validation.

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  • The 5 Love Languages Book by Gary Chapman
  • The 5 Love Languages Website
  • The Four Agreements by don Miguel Ruiz
  • “6 Rules For Open & Honest Communication With The Person You Love” Article by Scott Stabile

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081 – Dissociation 1: Are You Ready to Be Present?

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On today’s episode, we’re talking about dissociation and how many of us become disengaged from the present moment after trauma.

As the intro episode in a series about dissociation, we offer encouragement for all who feel ready to come back into their bodies (with the help of a therapist, please) to start believing that they can regain the ability to be fully present.

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080 – Free the Nipple

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On this breast-honoring October episode of Vagina Chronicles Podcast, we visit director and activist Lina Esco’s Free the Nipple campaign.

After digging deeper into the Free the Nipple movement that followed Esco’s feature-length film of the same name, we realized that there is a little bit of confusion about the point being made by the campaign’s title. What we realized was perhaps missing for women who do not feel the need or desire to bare her nipples in public was the act of solidarity for equality and the freedom of choice.

Female bodies have been deemed objects for societal judgment and use for far too long. You have to start somewhere when reprogramming how the masses at large and, more importantly, how women perceive female-presenting bodies…their own included. Lina Esco and the women who inspired her film are the pioneers necessary for the shifting focus.

America is not going to turn into a land of bare-chested people running amuck because women are free to breastfeed in public without stigma (or penalty) or if a woman decides to go topless at a beach.

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079 – Do You Feel Breast Shame?

 

This month on Vagina Chronicles Podcast, in honor of breast cancer awareness, we’re going to dedicate each episode to breasts. There is so much disfunction in America concerning women’s breasts; over sexualizing, shame, disassociation, objectification, anger, and so many other issues plague our relationship to our breasts.

In this episode, we are talking about breast shame. We discuss how it develops, as well as how that shame can cause us to disconnect from our bodies and lose (or never have) a loving, caring relationship with our breasts.

Although prevention is the optimal strategy for dealing with any disease, early detection is also an extremely important component of healing. We want to encourage all women to do monthly breast self-exams in order to get to know our own bodies. Hopefully, with the compassion and connection gained for ourselves through regular loving touch, we will have the courage and confidence to discuss changes in our bodies with our doctors or healthcare providers.

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