090 – Five Levels of Attachment: An Interview with don Miguel Ruiz Jr.

don Miguel Ruiz Jr.

Today, we welcome Toltec Master of Transformation and author, don Miguel Ruiz Jr. to Vagina Chronicles Podcast. Miguel Jr. is the son of don Miguel Ruiz, author of the New York Times bestseller The Four Agreements… If you feel the way we feel about The Four Agreements, wait until you listen to this fantastic, uplifting interview.

In his recently released book, The Five Levels of Attachment: Toltec Wisdom for a Modern World, Miguel explains how attachment to our beliefs can move us from a preference to fanaticism and how we all move in and out of the different levels of attachment throughout our lives.

Miguel shows us the freedom in noticing our attachments without judgement. He shares how we can get in touch with our authentic selves by detaching from our beliefs – about others, about the world, about truth, and about ourselves – and how this clarity leads to taking action.

Please enjoy this incredible conversation and do yourself a favor and purchase, check out, borrow, listen to The Five Levels of Attachment: Toltec Wisdom for a Modern World.

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083 – Effective Communication: How Tuning In With Love Can Change Your Relationships

Miscommunication is one of the most frustrating feelings one can experience with another human being; we want so badly to express ourselves and be heard that the alternative can be excruciating! Too often, we blame others for this lack of connection.

But what if we could adjust our communication skills by tweaking just one element? Not saying it’s easy, by any means, but, as in many situations, love is the answer. Now, we’re not talking rainbows and butterflies, we’re talking about conscious, pointed, intentional love. Speak with it. Hear with it.

By incorporating that one element into all our interactions with others, we can begin to transform how we enter, and leave, conversations. All of us want to be heard (it’s a basic human need), but so often we feel we are not.

Please enjoy this episode as we share our experiences with miscommunication and tips on how to enrich each relationship with the gift of love and validation.

Mentioned in this episode:

  • The 5 Love Languages Book by Gary Chapman
  • The 5 Love Languages Website
  • The Four Agreements by don Miguel Ruiz
  • “6 Rules For Open & Honest Communication With The Person You Love” Article by Scott Stabile

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Bonus Episode – Love Challenge Update

Ang_Toni_tutus_600In episode 63 we asked you to take a Self-Love Challenge with us and we promised to report back on our experience. We found that deep self-love gives us so many gifts. Both of us had awakenings and epiphanies. This challenge was truly life-changing and eye-opening. We hope you took it with us! But, this is one you can start at any time and keep doing for the rest of your life. Let us know what you learn when you take the challenge to love yourself, unconditionally, in every way.

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063 – What’s Love Got To Do With It?

We talk a lot about the importance of self-acceptance and self-love around here at Vagina Chronicles Podcast. Why do we dedicate so much time to this area of our lives? Because we feel that loving yourself, as you are now, is the key to blocking the negativity of many messages we are bombarded with every day and pushing through to something greater.

From self-love comes kindness to others, as well as ourselves. We are able to speak up with confidence and say no to things that don’t serve us. We allow our light to shine brightly, knowing that we all deserve to do so.

In this episode, we offer our listeners and ourselves a week-long Love Challenge. Let’s see what we can do with a little bit of intentional self-lovin’!

Love Challenge

For one week, give loving yourself everything you’ve got! Let the love energy flow through you and manifest into the things, ways of being, activities, and self-talk that so often gets scratched away by ourselves or others!

A few guidelines to keep you going:

  • Tuck judgment/beating yourself up away for a week (if you still feel like you need it at the end of the week, it’ll be right where you left it, so don’t panic)
  • Wear what you love and shed the “shoulds”
  • Do things that make you feel good (walking, yoga, reading, writing, art…)
  • Immediately replace negative thoughts with positive ones (keep a picture or a positive affirmation close by so you don’t have to flounder for something nice to say in the moment)
  • Write positive thoughts about yourself and life everywhere
  • Keep a journal so you can track the changes (and perhaps resistance) focused self-love brings up
  • Take it a few hours at a time, if you need to; there is no failing this challenge, only a chance to give yourself permission to love you
  • Forgive yourself. Every night before you end your day, forgive yourself for everything that happened that day
  • Let us know how you did! We would love to hear about your week

 

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030 – Can Saying “I’m Sorry” Too Often Hurt Your Self-Confidence?

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Have you ever counted how many times you say “I’m sorry” during the course of your day? Did you really mean that you’re sorry every time you said it? Or do you use the phrase as a filler when you really don’t have anything to be sorry for?

This week, we are digging into the reasons why many women (and some men, too) over use “I’m sorry” and how it can appear as if we’re apologizing for our very existence. When expressing our feelings, asserting our desires, or speaking our minds, we too often undermine ourselves by apologizing for what we need.

Listen in on our discussion and decide for yourself if you could be choosing more powerful, self-confident words to express…or if saying you’re sorry is just being polite. Join us in the comments below and tell us what you think of this topic. Do you say you’re sorry too much for your own comfort?

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