096 – Leaving Things Behind

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Our lives are works of art that sometimes look a lot more Goya than Rockwell. Like art, our lives are full of complexities, richness, and stories that are open to the interpretation of each individual who experiences them. Music and literature also share the fluidity of perception. Ink, paint, notes, life experiences…all true. You can see them, touch them, hear them, live them, but they’re not the complete story. They’re part of the whole that challenges each of us to discover what we need from them in the moment.

It can be tough, though, to see our past in these terms, as fluid. After all, the impact our past experiences have on us is, in this metaphor, the brush that defines the line or the pen that shapes each letter. The total sum of the parts makes us who we are: Yes!

But it’s ok to look again, with new eyes – more experienced eyes – and seek the deeper meanings. To find the symbolism of strength and resilience, of power and abundance. It’s ok, but sometimes not easy. Sometimes, the blocks are attachments that only keep you from shining your brightest.

Today, we are discussing what it means to redefine your story and how to handle the anxiety or fear that may show up when we realize that we need to leave some things behind in order to live into our new chapters. Sometimes, these are people, family or friends, and sometimes they’re habits or thoughts.

Whatever it is that seeks to keep you in a story that no longer serves you, we know how challenging it can be to let go. We hope you enjoy today’s episode and grab your copy of “Heal Your Soul: 5 Practices for an Empowered Life.”

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091 – Are You Ambitious?

 

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The topic of ambition recently came up in one of our VC2016 brainstorming sessions. After chatting about our ideas of what the word means to us individually, as well as the context it’s societally understood in, we knew we had to dig a little deeper into how describing ourselves as ambitious or not makes us feel and how judgement rears its ugly head in the labelling process.

am·bi·tion. amˈbiSH(ə)n/
noun – a strong desire to do or to achieve something, typically requiring determination and hard work.
Now, that doesn’t sound so bad, does it? Determination. Desire. Hard work. Good, solid words to describe what keeps many of us going – having something to look forward to and achieve.
But, too often, the word(s) ambition/ambitious are used to either put ourselves or others down. Some people use ambition as a synonym for uncaring, ruthless, mean-spiritedness in others. Still today, we see ambitious women being labelled “bossy,” “bitch,” or any number of meant-to-be insults.
On the flip side, some of us put those we deem most ambitious into an untouchable realm of super-humanness… something we’ll never be, no matter how much we want something. We use this judgment to denigrate ourselves and add check marks to the “Not Good Enough” column. Put the measuring stick down!
In reality, we are all ambitious in different regards. Although the term is applied most often to career aspirations and/or monetary rewards, it can actually apply to any area that you are dedicated to doing your best in – self-love, family, projects, the environment, education, kindness, etc. It’s not a good or bad thing to be ambitious – it just is.
Please enjoy our chat and tell us what you think!

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088 – Do We Have to Forgive?

 

This week, we are tackling one of the most personal topics out there: forgiveness.

For some, there is a massive cyclone of guilt and shame when it comes to forgiveness. From all directions, we receive messages of how we should be handling our emotions, which ultimately means many of us feel like failures.

The truth is, everyone comes to forgiveness (or not) in their own time, on their own terms. There is no one way to be and there certainly is no one way to feel. Most people mean well with their advice to forgive, but the pressure to make others feel better can be overwhelming if we haven’t yet accepted that the rollercoaster of emotions sometimes lasts 60 seconds and sometimes 30 years.

The one piece of advice that we firmly stand behind is this: forgive yourself. Make right things where you can and fire the judge. Be gentle with yourself. It isn’t easy. But if you can start there, you are on your way to freedom.

Please enjoy this conversation about our feelings on forgiveness.

 

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Bonus Episode – Love Challenge Update

Ang_Toni_tutus_600In episode 63 we asked you to take a Self-Love Challenge with us and we promised to report back on our experience. We found that deep self-love gives us so many gifts. Both of us had awakenings and epiphanies. This challenge was truly life-changing and eye-opening. We hope you took it with us! But, this is one you can start at any time and keep doing for the rest of your life. Let us know what you learn when you take the challenge to love yourself, unconditionally, in every way.

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063 – What’s Love Got To Do With It?

We talk a lot about the importance of self-acceptance and self-love around here at Vagina Chronicles Podcast. Why do we dedicate so much time to this area of our lives? Because we feel that loving yourself, as you are now, is the key to blocking the negativity of many messages we are bombarded with every day and pushing through to something greater.

From self-love comes kindness to others, as well as ourselves. We are able to speak up with confidence and say no to things that don’t serve us. We allow our light to shine brightly, knowing that we all deserve to do so.

In this episode, we offer our listeners and ourselves a week-long Love Challenge. Let’s see what we can do with a little bit of intentional self-lovin’!

Love Challenge

For one week, give loving yourself everything you’ve got! Let the love energy flow through you and manifest into the things, ways of being, activities, and self-talk that so often gets scratched away by ourselves or others!

A few guidelines to keep you going:

  • Tuck judgment/beating yourself up away for a week (if you still feel like you need it at the end of the week, it’ll be right where you left it, so don’t panic)
  • Wear what you love and shed the “shoulds”
  • Do things that make you feel good (walking, yoga, reading, writing, art…)
  • Immediately replace negative thoughts with positive ones (keep a picture or a positive affirmation close by so you don’t have to flounder for something nice to say in the moment)
  • Write positive thoughts about yourself and life everywhere
  • Keep a journal so you can track the changes (and perhaps resistance) focused self-love brings up
  • Take it a few hours at a time, if you need to; there is no failing this challenge, only a chance to give yourself permission to love you
  • Forgive yourself. Every night before you end your day, forgive yourself for everything that happened that day
  • Let us know how you did! We would love to hear about your week

 

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055 – How Social Media Can Damage Our Self-Worth

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Social media has become a big part of many people’s lives over the past decade. For many, it’s how they begin and end their days. And within the time we’re scrolling through our “friend’s” status updates, we’re also being inundated with articles and videos, all telling us how we can be, well…better.

Ok, so we love self-help, self-improvement, self-love stuff…heck, we ponder how we can love more and offer more of ourselves on a daily basis!

But being constantly barraged by all the ways in which we’re not currently good enough can cause our self-esteems to suffer quite a bit of damage.

In today’s episode, we share some great ways for you to resist the insidious nature of these posts, as well as how to feel good enough as you are. So, please join us in our discussion of how social media can cause us to break down on the road to self-improvement (click on the link to check out Angela’s blog post!).

How do you feel about your social media streams? Do you feel empowered by them or not good enough? Tell us about it in the Comments below.

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