097 – Addressing Youth and Teen Abusive Relationships: An Interview with Starr Burgess

This week, we are thrilled to welcome Starr Burgess, M.A. LPC. back to Vagina Chronicles Podcast! If you’re a long-time listener, you’ll remember Starr from Episode 19: “Healthy Relationships – How To Tell If You Have One and What To Do If You Don’t.” It was one of our favorite conversations with such an incredibly insightful woman.

We invited Starr back to the show to dig a little deeper into how/when people begin to enter patterns of abuse in relationships… as children and teens.

Starr shares with us the warning signs of early abuse, whether it’s at home or within relationships or peer groups, and what we can do as adults. The main goal here is to develop trust in order to keep the lines of communication open.Starr Burgess

The hope of this episode is for young people to begin to recognize when emotional, verbal, or relational bullying is happening so that they can exercise their right to change their circumstances (as far as it is within their power to do so). If we can help young people to not allow themselves to be caught in the cycles of abuse (self or other) at an early age, the perpetuation of violence may begin to recede.

We hope that you share this episode with anyone in your life that may need to hear this message of self-love, self-reliance, and empowerment.

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083 – Effective Communication: How Tuning In With Love Can Change Your Relationships

Miscommunication is one of the most frustrating feelings one can experience with another human being; we want so badly to express ourselves and be heard that the alternative can be excruciating! Too often, we blame others for this lack of connection.

But what if we could adjust our communication skills by tweaking just one element? Not saying it’s easy, by any means, but, as in many situations, love is the answer. Now, we’re not talking rainbows and butterflies, we’re talking about conscious, pointed, intentional love. Speak with it. Hear with it.

By incorporating that one element into all our interactions with others, we can begin to transform how we enter, and leave, conversations. All of us want to be heard (it’s a basic human need), but so often we feel we are not.

Please enjoy this episode as we share our experiences with miscommunication and tips on how to enrich each relationship with the gift of love and validation.

Mentioned in this episode:

  • The 5 Love Languages Book by Gary Chapman
  • The 5 Love Languages Website
  • The Four Agreements by don Miguel Ruiz
  • “6 Rules For Open & Honest Communication With The Person You Love” Article by Scott Stabile

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046 – Why Are Women Still the Punchline for “Feminist” Men?

menjokingWe love men. We especially love men who “get it.” These forward-thinking, wonderful men who believe in gender equality, the worthiness of women, the brilliance of femininity… our struggle is their struggle.

Except, they’re still making jokes about women or laughing at the jokes their friends are making about women. What’s up with that?!

In this episode, we are fired up over this incongruence and we want to challenge the men out there to rise to a higher level of support.

We get that men and women have fundamental differences in how we communicate but, if we’re trying to improve the conditions of women around the world, shouldn’t we try to elevate our speech to match our beliefs?

This topic got us really fired up! We would love to hear about your experience with the men in your life.

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