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Toni and Angela discuss the societal, and biological, impediments women face as they age baby-free.
We’ve all been through it, everyone feeling like they have the right to comment upon when you’re going to get a little “bun in your oven” once you get into any long-term/serious relationships in your twenties…But that’s nothing compared to the looks of pity and resignation that follow the urgings of, “You better hurry up, dear. You don’t have much time left,” that bombard women in their thirties!
With all of the advancements in healthcare, technology, and, um, FEMINISM that have occurred over the past few centuries, you’d think a woman could make the choice to have babies, or not, in peace! Whew!
Toni and Angela ponder why society hasn’t caught up to the multitude of choices women have when considering when and if they want to be mommies.
Whatever choice you have made, or are still gnawing on at 37 years old, it’s ok! Take your time, or not. Either you’ll be ready at 22 or 42, or maybe never. The point is this – bringing another human being into the world is a pretty major moment in your life! So it’s ok to do it when the time is right for you (even if your body can’t do it, there are so many children around the world that need a loving home!)
And sometimes, for some of us, never is the most perfect time in your life.
Emily says
I can’t tell you how much this hit home! I am in my late twenties in grad school and extremely career oriented. I have made the decision that I don’t want children, for many reasons. I hate when people tell me “you’ll change your mind” or “you are running out of time.” I hate that! I can’t agree with you more, this is a personal issue and others should not judge based on age. My mom was 38 when she had me, because of that I have no judgement on when woman choose to have their children.
Angela Stoner says
Emily,
Thank you so much for sharing your experience!