Warning: Adult Content. This episode is intended for an audience 18 years and older. If you are under 18, and wish to listen, please have a discussion with your parent or guardian and ask them to listen with you.
Today, we welcome back the fabulous Chris Maxwell Rose. Chris has been an independent sex educator for over a decade. Along with her wife, Charlotte Mia Rose, Chris runs PleasureMechanics.com and hosts the popular sex podcast Speaking of Sex. Their online courses allow you to master new erotic skills, ranging from Couples Massage to Foreplay Mastery and beyond.
Chris is also a survivor of multiple counts of childhood sexual abuse and teenage assault, and is dedicated to supporting other survivors in recovering their ability to enjoy sex again, on their own terms.
In this episode, Chris guides us a little deeper into learning how to heal our bodies with loving touch; she shares some great techniques we can apply right away in order to reclaim the right of feeling pleasure and connection from our own bodies. Chris also explains how to communicate with your partner in a way that allows you to remain safe, as well as respects them and their needs.
Please join us in this great conversation and let us know how you’re doing. Always remember, this is a life-long journey. Don’t judge the quality of the rest of your life by where you are today… it can be difficult, it can be scary, it can be the saddest, most frustrating part of healing at times. But you’re worth it. You deserve agency over your own body, your own pleasure.
You can access Chris and Charlotte’s online courses by clicking on the course title that you are interested in:
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Mentioned in this episode:
- You can contact Chris directly through her site: Pleasure Mechanics
- Speaking of Sex Podcast
- Our previous interview with Chris: “How to Receive Pleasure: A Guide for Victims of Sexual Trauma”
- Trauma Releasing Exercises (TRE): A revolutionary new method for stress/trauma recovery by David Berceli
- Waking the Tiger: Healing Trauma by Peter Levine
- Sexual Anorexia: Overcoming Sexual Self-Hatred by Patrick J. Carnes Ph.D.
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In the Comments:
Do you struggle with reclaiming your sexuality after trauma? Share your thoughts in the Comments below.
Kassandra says
Hello! My name is Kassandra and I love tuning into your podcast; however, episode 71 left me feeling rather conflicted. As an asexual, your comment that at times you would love to “go somewhere and be asexual” was very hurtful. Asexuality doesn’t make dealing with sexual trauma any easier or less stressful; in my experience, it only heightens sexual and emotional pressure in relationships. I feel that your latest episode perpetuates the false belief that love and affection imply sexual desire and/or sexual servicing, and gives power to those who treat my asexuality as an open wound to be treated (or at least a shortcoming that I need to compensate for). I’m tired of being abandoned as a dead end or adopted as a project to be pushed into normalcy.
Angela Stoner says
Kassandra,
I am so sorry that I contributed to your pain in regard to sexual trauma and sexuality. In no way do I feel that being asexual is “easier” or something that should be normalized. I used the wrong language in trying to express my own pain of trying to figure out where I fit. I am very sorry, again, for your pain. I would love to hear more about your experiences and share more of my own feelings and experiences about sexuality… in a more private forum in respect to my husband’s privacy. Please feel free to email me at VaginaChroniclesPodcast@gmail.com.
Kassandra says
Thank you so much for such a prompt and loving reply! You are wonderful and I trust that no harm was meant. Language is a strange and delicate creature 🙂
Angela Stoner says
Kassandra,
I want to let you know that Toni and I decided to remove my comment from the episode. We had a frank discussion of our requirements for standing behind what we say and decided that if our words are not used properly and they hurt someone, we must remedy that situation as best we can. Thank you for calling our attention to how we use language.